I have been living completely on my own since March 1st of this year for the first time in my life. I mean, I didn’t always live with my parents, but I always had some kind of roommate situation going on. I spent the last 7 years, 19 months, and 16 days living with my husband. Well, give or take a month or two because we technically moved in together about 6 weeks before our wedding. HEY! When you find a property that will let you have a 120lbs. dog you take it when you can.
Anyway, it’s been almost 3 months of living completely 100% totally alone for the first time in my life. I’ve discovered a few things that are both good and bad about it.
I love the fact that I can shut the bathroom door and have some free time without getting interrupted. The bad side, there is no one there to instantly share an OMG moment with. (Unrelated to the bathroom OMG moment)
I can read a book in almost absolute silence. Sometimes it is TOO quiet.
I can watch whatever I want to watch on TV, but there is nothing on.
I can sleep in the middle of the bed, but there is no one to throw my leg over. The next morning I find myself cuddled up to a big wad of covers that I have tangled up in the night.
I can cook whatever I want, but no one else is there to say if it is good or bad.
I laugh a lot more, but there is no one to share that with. Maybe I should borrow the parrot for awhile. He giggles back at me, then I giggle at him, and it’s an endless cycle…
Guys flirt a lot more, but they don’t really want a relationship.
I blog a lot more, but the yard doesn’t get mowed!
And the worse of the worst:
I am free to start over (well mostly), and now I HAVE to start over.
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May 19, 2008 at 3:20 pm
I guess I missed the entry about you being separated
May 19, 2008 at 3:20 pm
As long as youre happy I think that is all that matters. Its better to hurt a lot for a little amount of time rather than hurting a little for a long amount of time.
May 19, 2008 at 3:24 pm
I have to agree with consenttotreatment, I hope you both believe that this is for the best. Sorry to hear that things didn’t work out.However, one thing you said scared me a little:”I love the fact that I can shut the bathroom door and have some freetime without getting interrupted. The bad side, there is no one thereto instantly share an OMG moment with.”What kind of OMG moments do you have in the bathroom??? Hey, come quick, it looks like Elvis?
May 19, 2008 at 3:25 pm
I will be going through this soon too. I guess this is just a good opportunity to learn to be with yourself.
May 19, 2008 at 3:28 pm
@tx_christian – Yes Ma’am, I am. 😦@Consenttotreatment – Getting there again, hence the laughing more part. Hoping the two of us continue to remain friends. 🙂@bosefius – LOL!!! No OMG moments in the bathroom!!! But no more conversations like this either:*hubby barges in*Me: . . . yes?Him: It stinks in here…Me: I didn’t invite you to my party!!!!!!!Him: Where is X item? (or insert whatever random reason I needed to be interrupted during that time)Me: *glare*
May 19, 2008 at 3:30 pm
@squeakysoul – You know, overall it’s not too bad, but there are *some* things I miss a lot. I am getting a roomie at the end of June too, so that will help a bit…in a lot of ways!
May 19, 2008 at 3:30 pm
@Southernlass – The worse problem for me is the 4 (ok, 5 tomorrow) year old… “Daddy, when you are done, can you get me something to eat? Daddy, it really smells in there. Daddy…” The kids have their own bathroom, but whenever I have to go she decides it is time to have conversations
May 19, 2008 at 3:31 pm
@bosefius – LOL, now imagine the adult version…
May 19, 2008 at 3:36 pm
great list. at least you laugh a lot more. that’s saying something.
May 19, 2008 at 3:36 pm
@Southernlass – Wow, that would suck. Then again, my wife tries to talk to me about important things while I am in the ‘office’, then gets mad I can’t hear her over the fan.
May 19, 2008 at 3:47 pm
@happydeviant – I do laugh A LOT more. I missed that about myself. 😦@bosefius – LOL, you and your wife crack me up. *kidnaps you both*
May 19, 2008 at 3:50 pm
I think you are terribly brave. I don’t know how I would do that… or if I could. I suppose I would have too.Anyway, you are very brave and I look forward to your emergent journey as you crawl from your cocoon.x
May 19, 2008 at 4:02 pm
ORLY?!
May 19, 2008 at 4:32 pm
@sarahsD – Awww thanks! It’s a tough road, but I think we are both doing ok with it!@authentic_black_dragon – Yes, Orly!!!
May 19, 2008 at 4:49 pm
If anything ever happened to Ian, I would be in the same boat. It terrifies me. Not only am I afraid of the dark, but even with someone there (my husband, or a friend, at least a warm body) I sometimes get creeped out. I have to force myself to get out of bed in the dark to potty. Maybe if I did live on my own I’d get over it- or learn to get past it. I hope, fervently, I don’t have to.I hope that not only is it a learning and growing experience but a truly GOOD experience for you! I’m sure I don’t mind the you having more time to blog bit. Afterall, I get to read the blogs and I don’t have to look at the unsightly grass 😀 The best of both! lol! *lots of hugs*
May 19, 2008 at 4:54 pm
@silkenbutterfly – *goes home to take pictures of her unsightly grass and posts them for silkenbutterfly* There! I win! ;)I creep myself out over the dark sometimes too. I think I have been reading one too many horror novels late into the evening.
May 19, 2008 at 5:10 pm
I don’t like to be alone. I scare myself. I imagine noises into worse things than they already are. I need people. Even if I have to ignore them. just knowing they’re there . . . lol
May 19, 2008 at 5:12 pm
@bethro78 – I need to quit reading Anita Blake before bed time. It makes me all jumpy!!!
May 19, 2008 at 5:17 pm
@Southernlass – That’s funny. I never once had anita blake nightmares. Jurassic Park, yes. Vampires? no. lol Although if I read too many of the Alex Cross series by James Patterson in a row, I get nightmares. He’s a homicide detective and those are much more “involved” than the Women’s Murder Club series. I have serial killer nightmares from the Alex Cross ones. Thus feeding my irrational fear that I’ll one day be abducted by a serial killer.
May 19, 2008 at 5:23 pm
@bethro78 – LOL! I have actually listened to the Alex Cross stuff while driving to North Carolina…in the dark. Overnight. You want to talk about a creepy feeling when you get out at the truck stop! BLEH!
May 19, 2008 at 6:01 pm
sounds like it can be rough living on your own. My hubby and I have a lot of ups and downs but I dont know if I could actually make it without him. Sometimes when it gets really bad, I wonder, but then we make up and all is well. Best of luck with your situation. I have to give you props for being able to live alone!
May 19, 2008 at 6:06 pm
This post hit home, as I separated last October. I read everything and nodded all through it. I did bring one of my sons with me, and it really helps to have the company.The loneliness is piercing but the sense of hope (for making life better, the way I think it should be) can compensate.Oh, and you want to talk about bathroom storie… imagine 11 people with a single bathroom! See this post for fun.
May 19, 2008 at 7:18 pm
LOL, I am interested in why you wrote you spend 7 years, 19 months and 16 days. 19 months is a year and 7 months… what is that all about? You can blog more? “Whoooo Whooooo……”
May 19, 2008 at 11:55 pm
haha yes, living alone definitely teaches you things… i always used to tell myself that if i lived alone, I would work out (because i have this weird social anxiety when it comes to working out)…i lived in my own dorm room last year…and working out happened only about 5 times in that room…so much for that idea! i loved living in my own dorm room…but yeah, obviously living alone is WAY different than that. also, i totally relate to the waking up with a wad of blankets…i’ve never had the boy to throw my leg around, but i get the feeling i will if i ever reach that point…til then, my body pillow and blanket wad will do fine. 🙂 sorry i haven’t done the audio challenge…its been crazy busy. i’ve tried to get caught up with your posts though!
May 20, 2008 at 12:06 am
@Zeal4living – You caught my typo!!!!! should have been 9 months! XD DRAT!
May 20, 2008 at 1:11 am
I believe it should be 8 years since our eight anniversary was 5/13/08. I am glad you found your Lol’s.
May 20, 2008 at 1:25 am
@digood1974 – But we haven’t been living together 😉
May 20, 2008 at 5:44 am
You’re unchained! You’re free! Don’t forget to wear underwear!