Things I have learned from 20 to the big three – oh!


Today is the day.  I am officially 30.  I thought I would be pretty messed up about it, but in all honesty, I think I prepared myself for it quite well.  So it’s here, I slept late YAY for that, and later today the family and friends will be coming over for a visit and birthday party.  By damn there is going to be a nerdy girls night to be reckoned with tonight.  I wonder if I can force someone to give me a pedicure since it is my birthday!  MUAHWAAAHAAA.

I’ve been thinking a lot of the last days days of things I learned between 20 and 30 years of age.  I thought I would share a few of those things.

20 is a dumb birthday.  You can’t drink yet, and nothing of major importance happens except you are no longer a teenager.  However, you should enjoy it anyway!

21 is a stupid birthday.  However, being able to go into a casino and have someone bring you free drinks while you shake your fist in anger at a slot machine is kind of fun.  It’s more fun when you go back another time and actually win some money.

22-25 you will be tempted to get married and start popping out kids.  Take your time with that and finish off some of the other life goals you have.  It’s harder to go back to college as you get older.  Finish your goals off while you are younger and those all nighters don’t hurt quite so bad.

Don’t spend one second of your time worrying about what ANYONE else thinks of you.  The only person you have to answer to is yourself, and as long as you are doing what is right for you, everyone else can take a flying leap.

Appreciate the mistakes you made at a young age and learn from them.  They happened for a reason.  Don’t insult yourself by forgetting those mistakes and repeating them over and over.

Getting drunk a time or two is kind of fun.  Do it while you’re young because hangovers last a lot longer when you are older, and stuff hurts a lot longer.

Be responsible with money.  Nothing will cause more heartache in your life more than money problems.  You can have everything your heart desires than can be purchased with money, but if you have to work all the time, you’ll never get the chance to enjoy them.

Appreciate nature.  It was a gift, and taking 20 minutes out of your day to watch a bird, squirrel, or a butterfly floating by are worth it.

Laugh until your cheeks hurt and you are squeezing your stomach with your arms.  Joy is one of the best things we can ever have.

Leave your work at your job unless it is something you love.  Bringing home bad vibes from the office do nothing but keep you up at night and miserable.  Work to live, don’t live to work.  I certainly wouldn’t want my tombstone to read “Worked and forgot to live”

Find something, anything, that makes you passionate about it and never let anyone take it from you.  One hobby, one simple joy that is only yours will get you through a lot of things.  If you get bored with it, try something you have never done before.

Read.  Read a lot.  There is nothing that will spark your mind or teach you more in life other than reading.  You gain new knowledge and will possibly find something else to spark your life.

Take some time every single day for yourself.  No matter who or what else is going on in your life, everyone needs a little me time.  If the people in your life won’t give it to you, demand it of them.

Watching Comedy Central is a good way to get rid of stress.

Learning how to really cook will make you a better person, but learn it for yourself.  If someone else enjoys the fact that you can cook great, but let it be for you.

Do not let fear control your life.  Only you can decide if you need to take a risk or not and only you hold yourself back.  Sometimes the risks are worth it.

Remember to spend time with those you love.  One day they will be gone, and your heart will miss them.

Animals can be so funny, take the time to appreciate them.  They do great things for us in our times of need.

Remember that living is more important than a clean house.

Smiling at someone doesn’t hurt them or you and you might just make someone’s day with just that simple hello.

Love is all around us in many different ways.  Appreciate the love you receive and freely give the love you have to share.


Author: Jill Stewart

I am a 37 -year-old woman from Arkansas who is happily married to a Scottish immigrant aka “the hubby” “the hubs” or if I am calling him directly “YO YOU!” We’ve been married for 3 years and it’s been a crazy ride, and unfortunately our finances have been beat to death in the last few years. We have two dogs and a cat, no kids. The Blog- What’ll you find: Financial Information as we try to become debt free My attempts at working and trying to maintain a home to the standards I like My adventures in learning how to sew Arts and craft projects Funny tidbits from my life including living with a Scottish person, the dogs, and other oddball things that happen to me. What you won’t find: Much on children. I don’t have kids and I can’t have kids. Recipes- I don’t mind cooking, but unless it’s something really special, don’t come here looking for the weekly recipe! You won’t find it- unless you ask my husband. If you’re interested in what you see, please follow me on Facebook or sign up for emails! Most of all, leave a comment or ask a question! I am always happy to hear from you!

43 thoughts on “Things I have learned from 20 to the big three – oh!

  1. nice post,,, the message i get out of it,,,, at the earliest possible time,,, buy yourself a scooter,,,,, stuff like comedy central,,, you just get from your own experiences on your scooter,,, (after you heal up of course)reading,,, youll need that repair manual,,,yep,,, its all there,,, get a scooter,,,ps:  if you kill yourself,,,  disregard all this,,,,

  2. i passed the 22-25 range… and i’m STILL not tempted to pop out any kids… of course no man wants my sorry butt. but that’s neither here nor there.

  3. Happy Birthday tooooo wooooooooooooooO!Hope your 30th year is incredibly memorable and marks the beginning of many new and exciting chapters for you- like this new job.x

  4. HAPPY BIRTHDAY! Great post. Im not half way to 30 yet, but Ill keep those all in mind. 🙂 Where was that college before baby memo years ago? 😛

  5. There was a cake for you that I made :)and here are flowers for you.

  6. and a balloon and monkey for our party. Its going to be WILD!

  7. Happy Birthday. I haven’t even reached 20 yet, but I shall keep these in mind. 

  8. Happy birthday! I think 30’s are way better than my twenties were.

  9. @A___Beautiful___Disaster – really??? I hope so…Happy Birthday!!!! Eat cake for me too… My sorry butt is on a diet, so cake sounds soooooo yummy right now…

  10. Happy Birthday!You have sure learned a lot and you are absolutely right on all counts!Michael

  11. @mejicojohn – I shall have to think about the scooter!@adifferentkindofbeautiful – I have chocolate pie for my b-day….1 for me and 1 for everyone else.  I’ll kill someone over my chocolate b-day pie!@WomanOfLight – You’ll find him one day!  I have faith for you!  @sarahsD – Thanks a lot Sarah!  I am hoping the next 10 years are even better than the last 10!@Consenttotreatment – You are too sweet Jackie!  And you should know I am having pie and not cake!  You should make one today to celebrate with me!@SamsPeeps – Thank you!@UberGoobah – Do it!  You’ll love it!@A___Beautiful___Disaster – Thank you and I hope they are too!  Things are looking up like they will be better!@nattata – Thank you!@lizheartshakespeare – No stinking cake in this house!  Chocolate pie, and you can eat it whether you are on a diet or not.  B-days are a great excuse!@ETCACTOR – Thanks for the b-day wishes!  😀

  12. it’s your birthday, it’s your birthday….w00t!

  13. Wonderful post. Have a SPECTACULAR birthday! =D

  14. You know, i think that is a great idea. I am going to make your pie. MMmm I cant wait.

  15. btw,,, 30 is easy,,, i found 40 the hardest,,,, and i obviously left out the obvious on my first comment,,, happy birthday,,,re: the scooter,,, just remember bones break easier as you age,,,,first they get hard,,,, but once hard,,, they cant seem to call it a day,,, and eventually hard becomes brittle,,, which is just another word for harder,,,,

  16. Have a great birthday, and thanks for sharing what you’ve learned with the rest of us. I’m turning 20 on my next birthday and am pretty freaked out by it. 

  17. I’m only 21 and at 19 i wanted kids, but not anymore – after babysitting them, I figured i’ll just look at the ones in the malls and stuff, rather than add more people to the population. Any how, hope your birthday has been amazing and all your friends/ family have made it better!”Appreciate the mistakes you made at a young age and learn from them. They happened for a reason.  Don’t insult yourself by forgetting thosemistakes and repeating them over and over.” I like this one the most, especially with the mistake I made last month that is still causing me problems today — i’ve learned not to do that one! Another thought is listen to what your gut instinct is saying, don’t call or talk to another person to get a second opinion – just do it.

  18. I graced the 30’s with my entrance 5 years ago. I will tell you with age comes grace, more happiness and an ability to look at your 20’s and remember with little or no regret…depends on how you spent those 20’s…

  19. Happy Birthday Jilly! Great post. 

  20. My next beer is in your honour.Happy Birthday.

  21. Here’s to you and many more happy years ahead, my dear friend! I hope to meet you one day And hug you tight at least once! You have given us lots of good advice in this post – thank you. In short, live life to the fullest, right?Love ya!Addy

  22. Happy Birthday, you awesome fricking blogger! On the subject of your advice: I love it! Thank you for it. I agree on all points. Much of your advice has that “take-your-time” essence to it which is something I think modern society lacks. We really need to reconsider our values.

  23. Happy Birthday! Go out and enjoy your day!

  24. Happy Birthday to you, Happy Birthday to you, Happy Birthday dear Jill, Happy Birthday to you!!!

  25. i know i am a little late.  happy birthday!

  26. Happy Birthday!I’m almost (only) 22, and sadly I’ve had to learn a lot of those the hard way.  But it’s amazing to see how every single thing happens for a reason, even the crummy things lead to much better ones.  Great post!

  27. Happy belated Birthday, and thank you for the advice!

  28. Fantastic advice.  Thanks for sharing.  Happy birthday.  🙂

  29. Well I hope that your birthday all went very well.Best wishes.- andrew x

  30. Great advice, but don’t forget: 30 is still young! ^_^ Happy Birthday.

  31. I’m going to be shutting down my xanga in the next couple days.  I wanted to let you know that yours was my favorite blog to read, and I really enjoyed meeting you and chatting here and there about various things. Here’s to Southernlass! Let me know if you ever get a myspace account.

  32. “Read.  Read a lot.  There is nothing that will spark your mind or teach you more in life other than reading.  You gain new knowledge and will possibly find something else to spark your life.”I love this! It is so true!!!also I love this”Animals can be so funny, take the time to appreciate them.  They do great things for us in our times of need.” also very true.Good advice. oh and a very very happy birthday to you!


  34. Happy Birthday! I loved this post because you touched on a lot of thoughts that have been going through my head lately. I am turning 25, and it was inspiring to read this.I would like to print out your 21 things… i think this is a post i would like to re-read.

  35. Happy belated b-day!  Love the blog.  I’m trying to take as much in as I can and listen to others b/c one day, I don’t want to look back and regret things.   I am 25, and enjoying what I can.  Thanks!


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