The truth is women are not as complicated as you would like to make us out to be. Oh, I know, and I hear you protesting now, but the truth is if we are complicated it’s because of you. Women are really quite simple, it is the failure of men to listen to the things that women want that make us seem difficult. Here is a list of some of the things women want. Once I have given you this sagely advice it is up to you to use it!
If there is something that will ruin your chance with a woman faster than a concord can fly across the ocean, it’s a lie. We hate it. Now, when I say honesty, I mean honesty in all things, and if you are not prepared to be honest, then don’t bother wasting our time. We have memories that would scare the socks off of any database, and if you lie we will catch it, and THEN your life will be complicated.
I don’t mean money. The truth is *most* women out there don’t give a crap about your money. What we do care about is your ability to make us feel safe. Your ability to be there for us when we need it, even if you can’t understand why there is a big wet spot on the front of your shirt, and we are sniffling in your arms. Even if you stare at us like someone handed you a screaming newborn and you don’t know what to do with it, we need you to make us feel secure with you and with the loopholes in life.
We’re women. We can find men who want to get into our pants 24/7. What we want is someone who cares more about us than getting into our pants. Don’t get me wrong, women love sex, well most do, and once you have our hearts you are in for some of the best sex you will ever get. However, let us hear you talking trash about that great lay to your guys friends, or let us hear about the stream of other women you have hanging around, and we’ll leave so fast your head will spin. Don’t use us. We can find men to do that all day long, and it’s not what we want.
4. Step Outside of Your Comfort Zone
You might hate going outside and having a picnic. You might hate opera, or show tunes. However, if this is something your woman likes, you should bend for her a little and suck it up a little to go out of your way to do these things for her. I can assure you women are never too proud or embarrassed to go to a sporting event they know nothing about in order to spend time with you, and that same sentiment should be reversed. It shows you care about her even if it is not something that makes you giddy.
5. Be Yourself
Women would honestly rather know right out of the gate if you are someone she can potentially be with. If you are not yourself, you are basically lying (see #1 AND #3) to her about the real you. The truth is women can handle flaws in you. We can respect that if we believe in abortion and you don’t that it might not be a good relationship. We can understand that if you want six kids and we want zero, that you are probably not a guy we need to date. The thing is, we need you to tell us these things up front so that we don’t waste our time and emotions on a guy who is not going to stick around in the long run. We don’t need the fluff to make us feel better about ourselves so that later on you can tell us you didn’t mean it. Be yourself. Would you want a woman who wanted you any other way?