What happened to responsibility?

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After reading what a lot of the people said on the post I made in regards to the woman having an abortion, I feel like I should further discuss my true feelings on this topic.  The original post, in my mind, was not about whether or not abortion is moral.  I respect the opinions of other people who agree and disagree with abortion, and I understand their reasonings for believing the way they do about it.  All I can do at the end of the day is hope that one day others will learn to be responsible.

Do you remember when you were in grade school?  Do you remember how the teachers gave you an assignment or a test?  You had a choice, either do the assignment, take the test, or get a bad grade.  Depending on how you were raised your parents either cared if you excelled or they didn’t, but regardless of what happened at home, you received a consequence for not doing the assignment or taking the test.  You earned yourself a big fat 0 score. 

Then you likely hit your teenage years and started a job.  What happened then?  Well, you were given policies and procedures as to how that business was run.  If you did not follow those policies and procedures, the odds are you were given warnings and then fired.  Those same fundamental rules carried on into your “adult jobs”.

Let’s break this down really closely.  If you don’t pay your electric bill, the lights are turned off.  If you don’t make your house payment it goes into foreclosure, your car can be repossessed, your paychecks can be garnished, and if you commit a crime, you will likely get caught and go to jail.  All of this is because of a consequence to an action you choose to make.

Why don’t people understand this?  I know I am getting older, and maybe I am getting that old timer mentality, but since when was it ok to be a deadbeat and to expect the world to owe you something because you made the choice to be a deadbeat?  When did it become ok for your children to suffer because you would rather keep your cable turned on each month rather than buying them the new shoes they need?  When did it become normal to say “you can’t expect a grown woman to not have sex”, instead of realizing that a grown woman should be looking out for the best interestes of her children instead of sleeping around?  When did it become ok to do whatever the heck you want and expect NOT to suffer any of the consequences of your actions when we as a society have been shown our whole lives that is exactly what happens?

I guess the thing that is the real kicker to me is the people who expect a handout.  Since when?  I go to work everyday.  I had to take a drug test to get this job.  I have to pay my bills and be an upstanding citizen.  Why does someone else who is my age, probably in better health than me, and perfectly capable of working think it is ok to sit on his/her duff all day and live off of the government?  Why?  Because we let them.  Because we preach about how the poor have no real chance in life to get ahead.  Hence why all those grants are out there for the poor to go to college….but whatever. 

I ask this.  If you are a parent now or you want to be a parent in the future, please teach your children that having a job of any (legal) kind is better than expeceting a handout in life.  Teach them that responsibility is the way to live life, and if you choose to be irresponsible there will be consequences for what you do.  It’s that simple.  Until we start correcting the error of forgetting to teach our children to be responsible, we are never going to solve so many of the other problems we are faced with today!

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Author: Jill Stewart

I am a 37 -year-old woman from Arkansas who is happily married to a Scottish immigrant aka “the hubby” “the hubs” or if I am calling him directly “YO YOU!” We’ve been married for 3 years and it’s been a crazy ride, and unfortunately our finances have been beat to death in the last few years. We have two dogs and a cat, no kids. The Blog- What’ll you find: Financial Information as we try to become debt free My attempts at working and trying to maintain a home to the standards I like My adventures in learning how to sew Arts and craft projects Funny tidbits from my life including living with a Scottish person, the dogs, and other oddball things that happen to me. What you won’t find: Much on children. I don’t have kids and I can’t have kids. Recipes- I don’t mind cooking, but unless it’s something really special, don’t come here looking for the weekly recipe! You won’t find it- unless you ask my husband. If you’re interested in what you see, please follow me on Facebook or sign up for emails! Most of all, leave a comment or ask a question! I am always happy to hear from you!

19 thoughts on “What happened to responsibility?

  1. but our society isnt like that. our society allows you to push the responsibility on others. look at liquor laws – if i drink too much, and the bar does not cut me off, … BAM i get in an accident. then i can blame the bar for not being responsible FOR me. seriously, our society is borked.

  2. @lyricsninja – At some point it seems like it reaches that stage in adulthood though.  I can’t recall a lack of consequence in my childhood…perhaps that was my childhood though.  Seriously though, when did it become ok to blame the bar and not the drinker?

  3. Some people live with a sense of entitlement and a lack of consequences.  As ninja put it….borked. 

  4. @Southernlass – it happened the same year my dad decided to sell the bar he owned. his exact words were – thats ridiculous. there is no reason to keep a bar if thats the case. he was right. the bar lasted a few more years after he sold it, and it went under.

  5. Responsibility is a swear word in our modern eneration. We are in the blame game…all are the same nobody by name take any responsibility.

  6. ::smiles and hugs:: My friend…Amen…Amen…Amen…Amen….@lyricsninja – Borked is right@indigolady – Yup! ::nods::

  7. @Zeal4living – Agreed!@Viktorious1 – YAY!  I have been scared for a long time to talk about anything political because I thought I was a nut in some of my views…and I am sure I am, but it is nice to know there are other nuts out there!

  8. @Viktorious1 – Its really unfortunate. And the few who try to be responsible are often somehow screwed over by some loophole in the laws, and it creates a bitter person. It really is a shame. /sigh. But it wont stop me from being responsible, that’s for sure.

  9. People don’t want to screw everything up, so if it isn’t their duty to do things the right way in the first place then they can’t do it the wrong way.People want to do things their way and when the authorities disagree with them, they fork over the responsibility to some one else and thereby fork over the punishment. People don’t want to conform to the ways of modern society and on their way to dislocate themselves from everyone else they latch themselves onto other people for brief periods of time in order to survive, never seeing that they are still a part of society; they’ve just changed to be a different part. (As in the movie “Into the Wild”)

  10. Very well said.  Our society constantly seems to be trying to find ways to prevent people from having to deal with the consequences of their actions.

  11. Good word. Your right.  Unfortunately the children are being taught to go to the government for help.

  12. you made the subs list too. you rawk.

  13. @happydeviant – YAY that makes me happy!  I’ll have to find a present for you!

  14. >>> …since when was it ok to be a deadbeat and to expect the world to oweyou something because you made the choice to be a deadbeat?  When didit become ok for your children to suffer because you would rather keepyour cable turned on each month rather than buying them the new shoesthey need?  When did it become normal to say “you can’t expect a grownwoman to not have sex”, instead of realizing that a grown woman shouldbe looking out for the best interestes of her children instead ofsleeping around?  When did it become ok to do whatever the heck youwant and expect NOT to suffer any of the consequences of your actionswhen we as a society have been shown our whole lives that is exactlywhat happens?Since the advent of the ME generation of the 1960’s and the social and political upheaval that came with that, and the consequent adoption of European socialist/liberal thinking that underpins such values.They call it “progressive” politics and change. But the word ‘progressive’ implies moving forward and improvement. It’s been destructive and has led to just the kinds of things that you describe. It is regressive thinking. We ARE getting worse – not better – as a society. Darker – much darker – days than we’ve experienced already area ahead.

  15. @Southern_Fried_Country_Boy – I would have to disagree that everything during the 60’s movement had a negative impact on society.  While discrimination certainly still exists for races and sexes, that is when the fight for the majority of equality as an American happened.  In fact I am not so sure that the 60’s has had a lot to do with the moral backgroud of our society now.My parents were teenagers in the 60’s.  My mom was a stay at home mother until my parents divorced.  My parents raised me to know right from wrong and to be responsible.  I was a teenager in the 90’s.  Those morals carried through for me, and a great many others my age.  Perhaps, overall, the selfishness has carried through each generation.  Maybe that trait is what is causing the problems these days.

  16. @Southernlass – I didn’t mean to imply that everything about the movement was bad. I will maintain that I think it was the advent of the change that has led to many social declines. I would offer that the thinking that led to that really started before the 60’s, and has it’s roots back in the 50’s. That being said, there were, of course, advances, too, including a stronger sense that equality across a number of fronts was an important thing. The music. That was really good!

  17. @Southern_Fried_Country_Boy – Heh, I looooove 50’s and 60’s music 😀  That was indeed the best part!

  18. Wonderfully said. 

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