I was sitting in my ethics class listening to a discussion of the history of abortion. We had teams who each had a topic to discuss, and this weeks presentation was abortion. I knew from the get go that a lot of people in the class would not like what I had to say and I knew it was likely to upset some people during our discussion. After their presentation we were all given discussion questions. The following situation was proposed to the class:
A woman who has two children has lost her job and is now on welfare. Her birth control fails and she is pregnant. Should she be allowed to have an abortion and is this the best decision for her?
My answer was a resounding: NO.
First, let me start by saying I am not 100% against abortion. However, I do feel like abortion should not be used as birth control.
The person giving the presentation asked me why I felt this woman should not have an abortion given the fact that she was already on welfare and couldn’t support the children she had. My simple answer was the women should not have been having sex in the first place.
The gasp of horror that followed really shocked me. The outrage that followed actually made me laugh. This is how to conversation went from then on:
Presenter: You don’t feel like a grown woman has the RIGHT to have sex when she wants?
Me: No, I feel like she should be taking care of the two children she has and trying to FIND A JOB.
Presenter: You can’t tell a grown woman she can’t have sex.
Me: No, I can’t, but what I can say is that her current children come first, and she needs to grow up and stop thinking about her non-necessary physical needs and take care of her children. That includes NOT bringing a man into her home to have sex when he is not supporting the children and is making their situation worse. Furthermore, if she is out looking for a job during the day, her time at night needs to be spent making sure her children are getting an education, and that she is spending time with them. I don’t really see where unnecessary sex with a man who is not committed to her is helping the situation.
*more gasps of horror*
Presenter: Well, if she is stressed out, you know that some people use sex as stress relief.
Me: If that is the case then she can masturbate until her heart is content. I am sure people don’t get pregnant from masturbation.
Presenter: Whatever, you don’t know what you are talking about you must not have children.
Me: No, I don’t, but if I did I would obviously raise them better than her.
(At this point she really started to lose it and I realized that perhaps this is what happened to her. Perhaps she was giving her own personal story and felt like I was attacking her. I still stand by what I said.)
That is where I disagreed with her. Animals rut. Humans don’t. People need to realize that just because they CAN have sex doesn’t mean they should or that it is their god given right to mate whenever they feel like it. There are times and situations where sex should be the least important thing in life. I really don’t understand the mentality of people who think life handed them lemons and they were screwed over, when the reality is they created the situation themselves.
Do you think in a situation like the one listed above that a woman should have an abortion?